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I had written a six paragraph comment. Then deleted because nobody wants to read that. My core point is that I am a recovering Baptist pastor. I step foot in a seminary in 1993 and didn’t stop formally studying in that field until 2017. I was a pastor for about 17 years. I haven’t been to church since the first travel ban in 2017. I haven’t given up my faith but I have shedded a lot of stuff. I always have believed that all sin is sin. In the sense that God will take me with a lot or a little. However, I have also believed that sin when is done against others has consequences and there should be accountability. Not just church discipline but to the full extent that law and decency requires. Also, that we side with the injured party.

But it wasn’t until this morning, when my wife shared an IG post from you that was a summary of this column that this paragraph (copied at the end) hit me like a ton of bricks. I immediately came here to read it all, and wow.

I have never made the connection between the awful patriarchal practice of protecting the abuser with this idea. But I see how this, I believe sound, theological concept has been weaponized. Never saw it in that light but it makes sense. And it’s awful. Infuriating really. I appreciate you articulating this. I’ll be chewing on this for a while.

“The first tool in the evangelical gaslighting playbook is to reframe or flatten the language into “sin." Whether it’s someone lying about their homework or someone grooming a teenager in a youth group, both are labeled as sinful. Both require “grace." In theory, both are redeemable.”

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