I relate to so much of this (and pretty much everything you've written). I went No Contact with my mother several years ago because she's a malignant narcissist. She's also the pastor's wife, so I had to pretend that she was perfect and that our family was the ideal. My dad, the pastor, can be a lovely human being, but there's still a part of me that knows that he loves who he thinks I should be, not who I am. I remember when I came home from college pregnant and unmarried he said, "You've hurt my testimony." As if I only existed as part of him. We're still in contact, but it's low. I'm still trying to figure out how to deal with him and my mixed emotions. As my non-narcissistic parent, I'd like to have a relationship, but he still has some toxic traits and problematic beliefs that I'd rather not deal with.
This applies to hundreds/thousands/million of writings and commentaries - the second word used: “many”. Just specific enough as not to be the vaugery that it actually is. I’m not disputing that there is “many” (there is evidence in this case that there is), but that it’s so unquestioned all the time. It’s like a toll-free pass to complain about anything and everything, for many people. (See what I did there?)
Additionally, and statistically (I’m a statistician), there’s a difference between absolute count (“many”) and relative count (percentage). The impact is up to the writer, of course, but what is so lacking in this article and “many others” (again, see what I did?) is that the are just as many, and perhaps more if the percentage falls beneath 50%, that do it RIGHT. Instead of alluding to those people, the writer “often” (a synonym of “many” - same principle applies) blows up the whole premise and advocates something totally different, instead of promoting the other (correct) percentage.
To now be direct - I’m a WHITE (really, how does race and how does race factor into this?) evangelical that does it CORRECTLY. I’m not pulling down His kingdom, He’s fully capable of that himself. I’m listening to my (<cough> Latina) 24-year old daughter with lots of questions and plenty of hate for Trump. And I never (4 times) voted for Trump while completely voting Republican. Yet I listen. Yet I explain. Yet i proselytize - but she always gets her space, her respect, her pride. She always will. My wife, who is completely MAGA and involves herself in Trump-worship, treats her the same way.
Yes, there are people that do it correctly, who are fully evangelical and believe in a heaven and a hell and a righteous Judge who is coming and will separate sheep and goats the way HE sees fit - and thank God for that. I do feel for the children that were raised in the way this author (appropriately) describes - but don’t forget this, however significant, may yet be a minority and there’s far more (white and black and red and yellow) evangelicals that do it right. Maybe “many” of them. =)
The divide in my family started when George W invaded Iraq. I recently sent my evangelical parents a 2 page letter explaining why their actions and the actions of MAGA aren’t acceptable to me so I won’t be able to spend time with them, and I heard almost nothing back in reply. I can tell they’re mad, but I guess they just don’t want to discuss it anymore because I’ve educated myself on what’s actually going on within Christianity.
I relate to so much of this (and pretty much everything you've written). I went No Contact with my mother several years ago because she's a malignant narcissist. She's also the pastor's wife, so I had to pretend that she was perfect and that our family was the ideal. My dad, the pastor, can be a lovely human being, but there's still a part of me that knows that he loves who he thinks I should be, not who I am. I remember when I came home from college pregnant and unmarried he said, "You've hurt my testimony." As if I only existed as part of him. We're still in contact, but it's low. I'm still trying to figure out how to deal with him and my mixed emotions. As my non-narcissistic parent, I'd like to have a relationship, but he still has some toxic traits and problematic beliefs that I'd rather not deal with.
Been there. Left it all.
"Be careful, I identify as an Evangelical.”
Hmm, sounds like Mommy Dearest has fucked around and wants to find out.
These people are pathetic worthless sacks of wasted life. They need to dose some shrooms and feel the full admonishment of their own subconscious.
This applies to hundreds/thousands/million of writings and commentaries - the second word used: “many”. Just specific enough as not to be the vaugery that it actually is. I’m not disputing that there is “many” (there is evidence in this case that there is), but that it’s so unquestioned all the time. It’s like a toll-free pass to complain about anything and everything, for many people. (See what I did there?)
Additionally, and statistically (I’m a statistician), there’s a difference between absolute count (“many”) and relative count (percentage). The impact is up to the writer, of course, but what is so lacking in this article and “many others” (again, see what I did?) is that the are just as many, and perhaps more if the percentage falls beneath 50%, that do it RIGHT. Instead of alluding to those people, the writer “often” (a synonym of “many” - same principle applies) blows up the whole premise and advocates something totally different, instead of promoting the other (correct) percentage.
To now be direct - I’m a WHITE (really, how does race and how does race factor into this?) evangelical that does it CORRECTLY. I’m not pulling down His kingdom, He’s fully capable of that himself. I’m listening to my (<cough> Latina) 24-year old daughter with lots of questions and plenty of hate for Trump. And I never (4 times) voted for Trump while completely voting Republican. Yet I listen. Yet I explain. Yet i proselytize - but she always gets her space, her respect, her pride. She always will. My wife, who is completely MAGA and involves herself in Trump-worship, treats her the same way.
Yes, there are people that do it correctly, who are fully evangelical and believe in a heaven and a hell and a righteous Judge who is coming and will separate sheep and goats the way HE sees fit - and thank God for that. I do feel for the children that were raised in the way this author (appropriately) describes - but don’t forget this, however significant, may yet be a minority and there’s far more (white and black and red and yellow) evangelicals that do it right. Maybe “many” of them. =)
The divide in my family started when George W invaded Iraq. I recently sent my evangelical parents a 2 page letter explaining why their actions and the actions of MAGA aren’t acceptable to me so I won’t be able to spend time with them, and I heard almost nothing back in reply. I can tell they’re mad, but I guess they just don’t want to discuss it anymore because I’ve educated myself on what’s actually going on within Christianity.